Ever had that classic "Oh, I thought we were tight" moment, only for them to pull a Houdini once they got what they wanted? Yep, me too. It’s like one minute you’re the world’s best friend, and the next, it’s like you sprouted invisibility powers. So, why do some people transform from BFF to Casper the friendless ghost in the blink of an eye?
Let me break it down in my completely (un)scientific way. These people have a very special radar – call it the “Need-O-Meter.” When the Need-O-Meter hits 100%, they're all hey, boo! and omg, let’s hang! But as soon as it hits zero...poof! Like the last slice of pizza at a party – gone without a trace.
Here’s the psychology behind it: they’re what I like to call “Situationship Seekers.” Their brains are wired to subconsciously scan for anyone who can serve a purpose in their lives. Think of them as social sharks. They move from friend to friend, checking off needs: “Can you drive me to IKEA? Cool.” “Can you give me career advice? Love ya, babe!” “Can I borrow your Netflix password? You’re the best!” And once that need is satisfied, they swim away, baby! 🦈
And let’s be real – these Houdinis are pros at buttering you up first. They’ll toss around compliments like confetti, making you feel like the actual star of their world. They’ll text you every day like you’re the only person on the planet, making plans they’ll never follow through on, and you’ll be over there like, Wow, they really care! Then the second you’ve given them what they need? Crickets. Ghost town. Population: you. 👻
Honestly, I say we should start charging for this “frequent flyer” type of friendship. Need me to help you move? That’ll be $100. Want advice on your love life? My Venmo is open. I mean, think about it – people pay subscription fees for services, right? Why not for our friendship?
So, if you’ve been ghosted after you’ve served your purpose, here’s a little advice: don’t sweat it. They’re on to their next “target,” and you’ve saved yourself the energy of endless favors with no return. Give them a wink and a wave as they disappear, and go invest your time in the people who stick around whether you’re useful or not.
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